There are a lot of things men suffer alone. That's part of our DNA. We find great personal satisfaction in accomplishing on our own, independently. We famously won't ask for directions, won't admit when we are lost – we prefer to find our own way home. And eventually we do. Most of the time. And that's fine; that's our way.
But, as new and continuing research shows, there's one loss that men could use a little help from their friends to cope with. That's the loss of a spouse or a lover or a parent or a child or a lifelong friend. And it's often help that only other men can provide. Because we understand, many times without saying the words, where you're at, how you got there and even why. Although everyone's grieving process is unique, research shows that, faced with the loss of a spouse or partner, men report feeling “lonely, lost, dismembered, and numb.” They tend to seek activity and coping skills.
Those of us who have been where you now may find yourself (or lost yourself), after losing the love of your life, have gained a little information, have put together a kit of coping tools that belong in your garage right about now.
You are not alone and you don't need to go through this alone. There's another guy in your community in the same place as you and in this case – trust us – two or more heads and hearts are better than one. Men’s 8-week Grief Group being held in Bountiful starting this January 19th each Thursday evening for 8 weeks. If you would like to learn more about this group, give Mark de St. Aubin, LCSW, FT a call at 801-581-8901.