Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Nicole Wall, LCMHC, CDWF - Candidate, Bountiful, Utah

Find the Courage to Dare Greatly in 2015 with Nicole Wall.
Who is Nicole Wall, LCMHC, CDWF-Candidate?
Nicole is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, as well as a CertifiedDaring Way™ Facilitator- Candidate.  Nicole is passionate about helping adults, adolescents, and children break free from the fear that holds them back from leading the brave lives they desire.  In order to facilitate the Daring Way™ work, Nicole underwent intensive training in 2013. (Only Certified Daring Way™ Facilitators (or Candidates) are sanctioned to provide The Daring Way™ workshops).  Nicole strongly believes in the power of this work and helping people find more gratitude, joy, and connection.

To schedule an appointment with Nicole, contact her at 801.660.5233 or email:  pianoplr2@yahoo.com.

Nicole's office is located at 1355 N. Main, Ste. 3, Bountiful, Utah and is a part of the Resilient Solutions, Inc. team.

Sunday, December 7, 2014

Shanna Gwilliam, LCSW. Bountiful, Utah


Shanna Gwilliam, LCSW, has fifteen years of experience, specializing in helping individuals who suffer from depression, anxiety, sleep issues, weight issues, infertility, fatigue, chronic illness and pain, spiritual issues, high stress, grief, and trauma. Several years ago, Shanna increased her skill set and trained to be a Certified Hypnotherapist, a Wellness Coach and a Life Coach. 

To schedule an appointment, call or text 801-928-4964 or email shannalcsw@gmail.com.

Monday, November 24, 2014

Rachelle Buckner, ACMHC, Bountiful, Utah

We are pleased to welcome Rachelle Buckner, ACMHC, to our team of therapists at Resilient Solutions, Inc. 

Rachelle Buckner, ACMHC has a Masters degree in Mental health Counseling and a bachelor’s degree in Family studies and Human development. She specializes in counseling children and adolescence, particularly those who are dealing with anxiety, grief or the stresses of parental divorce.  She has seen great success in working with depression, anxiety, relationship issues, ADHD, parent/child relationships and dealing with the stressful adjustments of life. She also has experience working with victims of sexual abuse.


To schedule an appointment with Rachelle call: 801-510-1434 or email at: rachellebuckner@hotmail.com

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Kris Plummer, LCSW, Bountiful, Utah.

We are so pleased to welcome Kris Plummer, LCSW, to our team at Resilient Solutions, Inc. Kris has been in clinical practice for 17 years. Her specialties include working with women and adolescents struggling with anxiety, depression, and self-esteem issues. She’s had extensive experience working with survivors of sexual abuse and trauma, resulting in symptoms of dissociation (D.I.D) and PTSD. Her experience also includes same-gender attraction and working with individuals whose partners struggle with sexual addictions. She incorporates guided imagery, mindfulness, relaxation techniques and inner child work in her practice.
Kris also facilitates self-empowerment/self-discovery groups for women: “Time Out for YOU” and “Living Whole-Heartedly.”

To schedule an appointment call: 801-643-2255 or email: kris59@me.com

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Fall Grief Gatherings, Bountiful, Utah

Our Fall Grief Groups will begin the week of October 20th at Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste. 1 & 3, Bountiful, Utah.  The following groups will be offered:

(Groups are 8-weeks, $150)

Day Grief Group - Contact Melanie Holt, CMHC at 801.718.9840 or email: melanie_holt@comcast.net.  Begins Tuesday, October 21st

Day Grief Group (Spouse) - Contact Melanie Holt.  Begins Tuesday, October 21st

Evening Grief Group - Contact Abi Kay, LCSW at 801.372.5762 or email:  ajw100@gmail.com
Begins October 21st

Evening Grief Group (Spouse) -  Contact Becky Andrews, CMHC at 801.259.3883 or email: becky.lpc@gmail.com, Begins October 21st

Ongoing groups:

Mom's Group (meets every other Monday), $15/group.  Contact Becky Andrews, 801.259.3883 to join.  Next Group Monday, October 20th at 10:30 AM.

Group for those who have had a loved one die from suicide.  (meets every other Wednesday.) Contact Melanie Holt, 801.718.9840 to join.

Within each of us is the capacity to heal, and in any given moment we do the best we can.  

Thursday, October 2, 2014

Abi Kay, LCSW


We are pleased to welcome Abi Kay, LCSW, to our practice at Resilient Solutions, Inc at 1355 N. Main, Bountiful, Utah 84010.  To schedule an appointment you can reach her at:801.372.5752
or email:  ajw100@gmail.com


Abi Kay, LCSW specializes in Grief and Loss counseling, including loss due to death, divorce, chronic illness, and life adjustments.  She also has experience working with people suffering from Anxiety and Depression, as well as sleep issues.  She enjoys working with people of all ages.

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Mom's Grief Group, Bountiful, Utah

Our group for mom's who have had a child die meets every other Monday.  Lovely, welcoming, supportive group of women who understand and support one another.  Our next group is October 6th, 3:45 - 5 PM and then the following group is October 20th, 10:30 - 11:45 AM.  Groups are held at Resilient Solutions, Inc at 1355 N. Main, Ste. 1 in Bountiful, Utah and are $15/group!

Groups are facilitated by Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Becky Andrews.  To join you can contact her at 801.259.3883 or email:  becky.lpc@gmail.com

Monday, August 25, 2014

Young Adults Experiencing Depression Group, Bountiful, Utah

Our next 6-week group for young adults experiencing depression will begin Thursday, September 18 at 5:30 at  Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste. 2, Bountiful, Utah.  

Group facilitated by Mark Barnhurst, ACMHC.  Contact him to register and any questions at 801.706.8060 or email at:  mark.clinicalcounselor@gmail.com.

Group is $200/6-weeks or $40/group session.

Mark Barnhurst, ACMHC, specialized in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to help people with depression, anxiety, ADHD, and other life challenges.  He is about helping people become more resilient and move in a valued direction they want their life to go.  He is a soft-spoken therapist who cares about the concerns of his clients.  He also has experience using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Motivational Interviewing.  He has worked with adults, teens and children.

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Michael Van Dam, LCSW, Bountiful, Utah

Michael Van Dam, LCSW, MT-BC, a therapist at  Resilient Solutions, Inc. shares: While Autism does not define a person, knowing that even within the spectrum no person is alike, acknowledging Autistic characteristics can open the door for the individual and for associates to gain insight into the individual's remarkable way of experiencing the world.

I have greatly valued conversations I have had with individuals and families seeking guidance regarding Autism.  These conversations have allowed me to discover minds, hearts and desires that not only yearn to be understood and considered, but once time and space is provided for these persons to be listened to in full, have offered me profound insight not only into those persons way of thinking, feelings, and understanding, but also into my own.  

Michael works with adults and children with mood and behavioral challenges including Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and Sexual Addiction.  He assists individuals with Aspergers Syndrome.  He also provides family counseling and parent coaching to strengthen families and family relationships.  Michael integrates client's values into the counseling process and encourages clients to approach their challenges from a faith-based perspective.  His clinical skills include the creative application of therapeutic music, art, literature and play.

To schedule an appointment call Michael at 801.815.6152 or email:  mvandamlcsw@gmail.com
Resilient Solutions, Inc.

Friday, August 8, 2014

Melanie Jackson, LCSW, Bountiful, Utah

Melanie Jackson, LCSW, at Resilient Solutions, Inc. specializes in working with young children through play therapy techniques and works to involve the whole family in helping children heal.  She is experienced in working with children, adolescents, and adults.  Her expertise includes anxiety, depression, bipolar, adjustment disorders, anger management, behavioral problems and parenting skills/education.  She is also experienced in working with victims of sexual abuse.

Melanie shares a quote from Vaclav Haven:  Hope is definitely not the same thing as optimism.  It is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out.

Thursday, August 7, 2014

Women's Group. Nicole Wall, Bountiful, Utah

Nicole Wall, ACMHC, at Resilient Solutions Inc in Bountiful, Utah will be offering an 8-week course: The Daring Way to begin September 4th. For details contact her at: 801.660.5233 or email: painoplr2@yahoo.com.

Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Courtney McDonough, CSW, Bountiful, Utah

Courtney McDonough, CSW, at Resilient Solutions, Inc specializes in working with adolescents and women.  She has had great success working with depression, anxiety, self-harming behaviors, adjusting to difficult life events, stress management, and grief and loss.  She has also specialized with children diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and trained in Behavior Therapy, particularly Applied Behavioral Analysis.  She is also experienced in working with victims of s exual abuse.

Courtney shares,  As a young girl, I always believed in the power of hope.  Now, as a therapist, I firmly believe that it is important to remain optimistic and hopeful in times of trial and difficulty.  I encourage my clients to remember that there is always hope of a brighter tomorrow and that "Even the darkest nights will end and the sun will rise."

To schedule an appointment with Courtney, contact her at:  801.310.429.7445.

Monday, August 4, 2014

Monica Forsman, LCMHC, Bountiful, Utah

Monica Forsman, LCMHC, at Resilient Solutions, Inc specializes in women's issues of interpersonal concerns, marriage and family counseling.  Monicals's clinical expierence includes indivdiual and group therapy for stress, anxiety, depression/mood disorders, and substance abuse.  Monica is experienced working with individuals, families and groups who have witnessed traumatic incidences or accidents.  Monica focuses on self-awareness, on the individual's inherent strength and the ability to harness their strength's to enhance well-being.

Monica shares:  Coming from a mindfulness, solution-focused approach, I specialize in women's issues of interpersonal concerns, along with marriage and family counseling.  In a safe and respectful setting, we work together as a team, in your quest of meeting your goals toward healing and discovery of a stronger marriage, family and a more resilient you!  We will discuss and put in practice proven tools and techniques that you can implement every day, on your road to recovery.  My passion is to assist you in your journey on how to feel whole, connected, and well-balanced in your life.  There is always hope to achieve long last happiness!

To schedule an appointment call Monica at 801.604.5040 or email:  monica.lapc@gmail.com

Saturday, August 2, 2014

Suzette Fritinger, LCSW, Bountiful, Utah

Suzette Fritinger, LCSW, specializes in marital counseling, eating disorders, addictions, and abuse as well as grief and loss.  She also has experience working with children who expeirence chronic health problems and their families.  She also has extensive experience with women's issues, especially single women and dating issues.

Suzette shares:  When the sun gets too hot we finally make a change and move into the shade.  This is how therapy is for people.  When life gets too hard we are finally read to make a change and move into a more comfortable place in life.  Sometimes we stay in the hot sun for a very long time, but want to make a change.  When you finally get to the point of it being too much to carry, we turn to a therapist to take us on the journey of cleansing the past and finding peace for the present and hope for the future!

To schedule an appointment with Suzette, contact her at 801.497.6957 or email:  suzette.fritinger@gmail.com

Thursday, July 31, 2014

Lisa Bradford, LCSW, Bountiful, Utah

Lisa Bradford, LCSW, at Resilient Solutions, Inc, specializes in women's issues including:  depression, anxiety, divorce adjustment and sexual trauma such as sexual abuse and rape.  She also works with adolescent issues and eating disorders.  Lisa has developed a 24-week program, RISE (Resilient Individual's Succeeding through Emotional Trauma), which focuses on helping women heal from the emotional trauma of sexual abuse.  Lisa's focus is to help women and adolescents become resilient in their lives and understand their own personal value.  She has been a therapist for 18 years.  

Lisa shares:  One of the things that I love about being a therapist is that I get to help individuals heal.  I am often amazed by individuals resilience and ability to work through and overcome trauma.  I believe that talking about feelings is so powerful.  Often times shame is part of the core of the problems that people deal with.  In Brene's Brown's book "Daring Greatly" she talks about shame and the impact shame has on people.  She states the following:  "Shame derives it's power from being unspeakable.  That's why it loves perfectionists - it's so easy to keep us quiet.  If we cultivate enough awareness about shame to name it and speak to it, we've basically cut it off at the knees.  Shame hages having words wrapped around it.  If we speak shame, it begins to wither."  I love this statement because to me it speaks of hope and a way to heal. 

To schedule an appointment with Lisa Bradford call her at 801.660.8441.

Sunday, July 27, 2014

Young Adults Experiencing Depression Group in Bountiful, Utah

Young adults experiencing depression group will go over different causes of depression, practice mindfulness skills, explore positive thinking, other coping skills and explore different challenges young adult's experience as well as different ways to handle these challenges.

Group begins this THURSDAY, 5:30, July 31, 2014 at Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste, 1 Bountiful, Utah.

Group facilitated by Mark Barnhurst, ACMHC, a therapist at Resilient Solutions, Inc. .  To register contact Mark - mark.clinicalcounselor@gmail.com or phone at 801.706.8060.

Group is $200 for 6-week group if paid at first session.  Otherwise, group is $40/group session.

Sunday, July 20, 2014

Your Choice

 Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you're doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.

― Joel Osteen 

Monday, June 30, 2014

Young Adult Group for those experiencing Depression. Bountiful, Utah

Young adults experiencing depression Group.  This group will go over different causes of depression, practice mindfulness skills to help stay in the present moment, explore positive thinking, other coping skills and explore different challenges young adult's experience as well as different ways to handle these challenges.

Group begins Thursday, July 31 at 5:30 pm at Resilient Solutions, Inc. (1355 N. Main, Ste.1 Bountiful, Utah).  Led by Licensed Therapist, Mark Barnhurst.  Contact him to register and any questions at 801.706.8060 or email:  mark.clinicalcounselor@gmail.com.  Group is $200 for 6-weeks.

Thursday, June 26, 2014

Courtney McDonough, CSW, Bountiful, Utah.

We are pleased to welcome Courtney to   Resilient Solutions, Inc..
  
Courtney McDonough, CSW, specializes in working with adolescents and women.  She has had great success working with depression, anxiety, self-harming behaviors, adjusting to difficult life events or stressors, stress management, and grief and loss. She has also specialized with children diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and trained in Behavioral Therapy, particularly Applied Behavioral Analysis.  She is also experienced in working with victims of sexual abuse.  

To schedule an appointment with Courtney call (310) 429-7445.

Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Experiencing your feelings

So, it is in experiencing your feelings that you activate your capacity to be touched and changed by experiences you encounter along life's paths.  

To contact one of our therapists at Resilient Solutions, Inc in Bountiful,  Utah, visit our website - our therapists.

Monday, June 16, 2014

Teen Grief Group, Bountiful, Utah

Connecting with other teens who can relate ...

Teen Grief Group - for teens who have had a loved one die
Tuesday, June 24th, 11-12 at Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste. 1, Bountiful, Utah
Led by Licensed Therapist - Melanie Holt, ACMHC.  To join contact her at 801.718.9840 or email:  melanie_holt@comcast.net.  Group is $20/group.  

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Mark Barnhurst, ACMHC

Do you ever find your mind telling you that you can do something only to dispute it a moment later? Or think about all the great things you did and to then wonder if you did anything great at all? When I find myself stuck in my head,  I think of this quote from the Wizard of Oz, "Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain." When I think about this quote, I think how if I do not remember it is my mind that is telling me things then I find myself scared of a floating head and find out it is really a man behind a curtain. -- Mark Barnhurst, ACMHC

To schedule an appointment with Mark Barnhurst, ACMHC, at Resilient Solutions, Inc, call him at 801.706.8060 or email:  mark.clinicalcounselor@gmail.com

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Our power

"Even the helpless victim of a hopeless situation, facing a fate he cannot change, may rise above himself, may grow beyond himself, and by so doing change himself. He may turn a personal tragedy into a triumph." 
- Viktor Frankl

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Summer Grief Support. Bountiful, Utah

Resiilent Center for Grieving Families offers the following grief support:

Mom's Group (for moms who have had a child die), Mondays 10:30 - 11:45 - Open Group - next group June 2 ($15/group).  Contact Becky Andrews, LCMHC at 801.259.3883 to join.

Teen Grief Group - Tuesdays, 11 - 12 - Six-week group beginning June 10th - ($95/6 weeks).  Contact Melanie Holt, ACMHC at 801.718.9840 or email: melanie_holt@comcast.net to join.

Evening Grief Group - For those who have had a loved one die from suicide -Wednesdays, 5:30.  Contact Melanie Holt to join.

Evening Grief Group - For those who have had a spouse die.  Wednesdays, 5:30 (every other week).  Contact Melanie Holt to join.

Evening Grief Group for those who are experiencing a loss.  Thursdays 6:45 - 8:00 - 6 week group/$95.  Next group beginning June 12th.  Contact Becky Andrews to join.

Within each of us is the capacity to heal, 
and at any given moment we do the best we can.  

Monday, May 26, 2014

Tethered in Gratitude

This article is a couple years old but a favorite:

Staying tethered in stormy waters

“Tossed by the waves.” Isn’t it a perfect metaphor for that feeling of getting hit with one thing after another? So when that happens what we all need is a good strong rope tied to the mainland to avoid getting washed out to sea.
A simple and effective tether in times of transition or stress is gratitude practice. It has amazing power to connect us to everything and everyone. Here’s some data from Dr. Robert Emmons, UC Davis, (Emmons & McCullough, 2003):
• In an experimental comparison, those who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole, and were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared to those who recorded hassles or neutral life events.
• Participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress toward important personal goals (academic, interpersonal and health-based) over a two-month period compared to subjects in the other experimental conditions.
• A daily gratitude intervention (self-guided exercises) with young adults resulted in higher reported levels of the positive states of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, attentiveness and energy compared to a focus on hassles or a downward social comparison (ways in which participants thought they were better off than others).
Kathryn Britton, in her article on the Role of Gratitude at Work on the Positive Psychology News Daily Website, cites Lyuobomirsky, Sheldon, and Schkade (2006) who contend that one’s chronic happiness level is determined partly by a genetic baseline or set point (50%), partly by circumstances (10%), and partly by intentional activity (40%). Thus, “practicing gratitude is an intentional activity that can make a real and ongoing difference in chronic happiness levels.”
Kathryn suggests these methods for practicing gratitude:
• Pay attention to good things, large and small.
• Pay attention to bad things that you have avoided.
• Establish regular times to focus on being grateful.
• When facing a loss or a difficult task or situation, remind yourself to be grateful both for what you haven’t lost and for the strengths and opportunities that arise from facing difficulties.
• Elicit and reinforce gratitude in the people around you.
I would add that it helps to remember how many people have created or made possible what you experience every day. If you fly, for example, think of the many people who built the plane, inspected the plane, fly it, have made the seats, bottled the water, etc. This practice provides a reminder of the web of support that we live in and contribute to daily—and normally don’t notice.
And finally, read poetry. In David Whyte’s beautiful poem Everything is Waiting for You, he writes (with gratitude, I imagine) about the support he feels from the world. Here’s an excerpt from his poem:
…Surely,
even you , at times, have felt the grand array;
the swelling presence, and the chorus, crowding
out your solo voice. You must note
the way the soap dish enables you,
or the window latch grants you freedom.
Alertness is the hidden discipline of familiarity.
The stairs are your mentor of things
to come, the doors have always been there
to frighten you and invite you,
and the tiny speaker in the phone
is your dream-ladder to divinity.
Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease into
the conversation. The kettle is singing
even as it pours you a drink, the cooking pots
have left their arrogant aloofness and
seen the good in you at last. All the birds
and creatures of the world are unutterably
themselves. Everything is waiting for you.
What tethers you to solid ground?

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Mark Barnhurst, ACMHC, Bountiful, Utah

Mark Barnhurst, ACMHC, specializes in using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to help people with depression, anxiety, ADHD, and other life challenges.  He is about helping people become more resilient and move in a valued direction they want their life to go.  He is a soft-spoken therapist who cares about the concerns of his clients.  He also has experience using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Motivational Interviewing.  He has worked with adults, teens and children, though is most comfortable with adults and adolescence.  He has over six years experience of supporting people with their daily lives and understands how to help people change behavior. 

To schedule an appointment call 801-706-8060 or mark.clinicalcounselor@gmail.com

Sunday, May 18, 2014

Becoming

Thank you to our colleague Shanna Gwilliam, LCSW, at at Resilient Solutions, Inc. who shared this beautiful quote and created it in such a lovely way.

Thursday, May 15, 2014

Children & Outdoors

 My children grew up outdoors. We live in a rural area, and neighbors have horses and goats, and I have chickens. I have a large garden.
So when a recent study showed that children have a powerful sense of connection with spirit, the earth, and transcendence when they spend time outdoors, I was gratified. It is great to see you have been on the right path.
Go to my blog here and read about this study.
Ask yourself: Are we facilitating children being outdoors? Are we encouraging them to spend time in nature? Even going to local parks? 
Or do we "sign off" so to speak on the poor children spending hours in front of TV and playing video games?
--Dr. Lynn Johnson.  

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Monday, May 12, 2014

Coping to Thriving

Years ago I was asked to give a presentation in Chicago at a conference.  The title they requested was: "Coping with Vision Loss."   As I began my presentation and started to share 'tips' on coping with vision loss, an elderly woman stood up and said - I don't see why we need to just cope - why can't we thrive!  I absolutely loved her enthusiasm and determination.  I told her I totally agree.  My talk shifted to Thriving with Vision Loss.  A simple word change gave it a different energy!  Coping feels like getting by - making it.  Sometimes we are in a place of coping.  I recognized that as she said ... this was about thriving!   Thriving is flourishing, growing vigorously, progressing towards a goal despite or because of circumstances. 

Whenever I hear the word cope, my mind often goes back to that sweet moment where I was reminded to transition to THRIVE!   

-- Becky Andrews, LCMHC, FT

Thursday, May 8, 2014

Support a mom who is grieving


What Grieving Mothers Want for Mother’s Day
By Renee Wood

Over 80 percent of the nearly 100 respondents in a survey of mothers who are grieving answered, ‘recognize that I am a mother’ to the question of how can someone help.  In addition, nearly every mother surveyed wanted their loss to be remembered with a card, a phone call, a gift or a hug.  Over half of the mothers surveyed considered Mother’s Day to be their most difficult holiday.

In response to the heartfelt answers given by the survey participants, the Comfort Company has issued a list of the ten things grieving mothers want most for Mother’s Day:

1.  Offer a hug.  Send a simple Mother’s Day card to let them know you remember that they are a mother even though their child is not with them physically.

2. Acknowledge that they have had a loss.  Express the message, I know this might be a difficult day for you.  I want you to know that I am thinking about you today.”  Removing the wall of silence gives a grieving mother permission to talk about her child.

3. Use their child’s name in conversation.  Saying the name of a child who has died is like music to a grieving mother’s ears.  One mother suggested, “Say his name and ask me my fondest memory of him/her.”

4. Plant a living memorial. This is a wonderful day to plan a tree or flower bulbs in memory of the child.  This is something that will live on as a beautiful reminder in the years to come.

5. Visit the Gravesite. Many mothers feel that it was ‘extremely thoughtful’ when others visited their child’s gravesite and left flowers or a small pebble near the headstone.

6. Light a candle.  Let the mother know you will light a candle in memory of their child on Mother’s Day.

7. Share a Memory or Picture of the Child:  Give the precious gift of a memory.  One mother wrote that the ‘greatest gift you can give is a heartfelt letter about my child and your most lovely moments with them.’

8.  Send a Gift of Remembrance.  Many mothers suggested appropriate gifts of remembrance that would bring them comfort.  These items included: an angel statue, a piece of jewelry, a memory box, a memorial candle, a picture frame, a library book donation, an ornament, anything personalized with the child’s name or a date, a garden stone or a toy donation in the child’s name.

9.  Don’t try to minimize their loss.  Avoid using any clich├ęs that attempt to explain the death of a child.  (God needed another angel.)  Secondly, don’t try to find anything positive about the loss (You still have two healthy children.  Or She’s in a better place.)

10.  Encourage self-care.  Self-care is an important aspect of the ‘healing the mind and spirit effort’ according to several mothers.  Encourage a grieving mother to take care of herself.  Give her a gift certificate to a day spa or any place where she can be pampered.

Becky Andrews, LPC, FT, 801.259.3883, becky.lpc@gmail.com

Monday, May 5, 2014

Inner Decisions

Each one of us is uniquely independent in the inner realm of our thoughts. No one can bind your mind and make you think thoughts that you don't wish to think or choose attitudes that you don't wish to adopt. Each one of us is absolutely independent in that internal sphere. You, and you alone, have the option to use your mind as a power of positive creation. Thoughts are not just airy vapors, they are quanta of formative energy. They exert direct effect upon our bodies, our behavior, and even the external world around us. Your internal environment has power over your external environment the moment your choose to exercise control. You can alter circumstances and events at will by creating a vision of what you want to have happen and giving yourself permission to enact it. Moment by moment, thought by thought, you author your own script. You do it actively or passively. Either way, you are ultimately the cause determining which effects occur. People are only victims of circumstance if they believe that they are and take a passive approach, letting their lives become subject to outside forces. In a poignant example, Dr. Viktor Frankl recounts his experience and observations while a prisoner in Auschwitz in his classic book, Man's Search for Meaning. Living in the most brutal, demeaning, hostile environment imaginable, Frankl observed the actions and reactions of his fellow prisoners. Understandably, some people became angry and bitter. Some people managed to stay hopeful and perseverant. Notably, Frankl observed what happened when some prisoners made the choice to simply gave up, relinquishing their hopes for the future. He described this as a pivotal moment. The day they abandoned hope and decided that things were never going to get better was the day they began to decline mentally, spiritually and physically. Frankl's conclusion is timeless. He said, "Everything can be taken from man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms--to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way. In the final analysis, it becomes clear that the sort of person the prisoner became was the result of an inner decision and not the result of camp influence alone. Fundamentally, therefore, any man can, even under such circumstances, decide what shall become of him mentally and spiritually." In the end, it was not the Nazis, not the fences and barbed wire, not the atrocious external circumstances that dictated the person's life or character. It was his or her inner decisions. Each one of the prisoners decided how they would deal with the forces around them. Each person's life became a reflection of those inner decisions. - Dennis R Deaton

Monday, April 21, 2014

Grieving Moms - Tribute Luncheon

Join us for our  annual Mother’s Day Lunch

For moms who have had a child die

Monday, May 5, 2014
12:00 – 2:00 PM

The Wight House
95 North Main
Bountiful, Utah


What to expect:           A peaceful remembering time with other moms
                                           Delicious lunch from the Wight House  
Wondrous companionship and serene encouragement
Love, smiles, tears, affection and understanding

What to bring:              Picture(s) to share if you’d like

$20 per mother for lunch
(This can make a beautiful gift for a mother you know who has had a child die)

Any questions, please call Becky Andrews, LCMHC at 801.259.3883 (becky.lpc@gmail.com) or Melanie Holt, 801.718.9840 (melanie_holt@comcast.net)

Please send the form below and check to Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste. 1, Bountiful, UT 84010 by May 2, 2014.  Please make check payable to:  The Oasis Center. 

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Name _______________________________________________ Child’s Name ______________________

Address _______________________________________________________________________________________________


Email: _________________________________ Phone : _____________________________

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Just Listen. Loving Silence.

Just Listen

"I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen.  Just listen.  Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention.  And especially if it's given from the heart.  When people are talking, there's no need to do anything but receive them.  Just take them in.  Listen to what they're saying.  Care about it.  Most times caring about it is even more important than understanding it.  Most of us don't value ourselves or our love enough to know this.  It has taken me a long time to believe in the power of simply saying, "I'm so sorry," when someone is in pain.  And meaning it.

One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like that happen to them.  Subtly her pain became a story about themselves.  Eventually she stopped talking to most people.  It was just too lonely.

I have even learned to respond to someone crying by just listening.  In the old days I used to reach for the tissues, until I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them down, to take them out of their experience of sadness and grief.  Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there with them.  

This simple thing has not been that easy to learn.  I thought people listened only because they were too timid to speak or did not know the answer.  A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well intentioned words."
- Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Finding Possibilities

Become a POSSIBILITARIAN.  No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities -- always see them, for they're always there.  Norman Vincent Peale.

At times, we need help finding these possibilities.  If you would like to meet with one of the therapists at Resilient Solutions Inc visit our Therapists page to see which therapist may be the best fit for you in your journey.  

Friday, April 4, 2014

Believe

Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh:  Promise me you'll always remember:  You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.  


Thursday, March 27, 2014

Loving in the Present

The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present. -- Barbara DeAngelis

Monday, March 24, 2014

Mother's Day Lunch for Mom's who have had a child die.

Join us for our annual Mother's Day Luncheon for mom's who have had a child die.
When:  Monday, May 5, 12 - 2 PM
Where:  Wight House, 95 North Main, Bountiful, Utah
$20 for event.  Checks made payable to:  The Oasis Center, 1355 N. Main, Ste. 1, Bountiful, Utah 84010 to be received by April 28th.

For more information, contact Melanie Holt, ACMHC,  at 801.718.9840 or Becky Andrews, LCMHC at 801.259.3883.


Thursday, March 20, 2014

Spouse Grief Groups in Bountiful, Utah.


Adult Grief group
for spouses 55 and Older.
Begins: Tuesday April 22, 2014 11:00-12:15.
Group will run every week for 6 weeks.

When a loved one dies, the world changes. Though loss is hard, there is hope.
As stated by a group member “Grief doesn’t get better it gets different.”
The group setting offers a safe place to share your story and feelings with others who may identify with where you are.


Adult Grief group for spouses 20 to 55.
Begins: Wednesday April 23, 2014 5:30-6:45.
Group will run every other week for 6 weeks.

Contact Melanie Holt, ACMHC, at 801.718.9840 or melanie_holt@comcast.net to join.  

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Monica Forsman, LCMHC, Bountiful, Utah.

Monica Forsman, M.Ed., LCMHC specializes in women's issues of interpersonal concerns, marriage and family counseling.  Monica’s clinical experience includes individual and group therapy for stress, anxiety, depression/mood disorders, and substance abuse.  Monica is experienced working with individuals, families and groups who have witnessed traumatic incidences or accidents.  Monica focuses on self-awareness, on the individual’s inherent strength and the ability to harness their strength’s to enhance well-being.  She is bilingual with Swedish as her second language.  

Monica shares one of her favorite quotes:  "A friend is one who knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts who you've become, and yet gently invites you to grow.:  Anonymous
To schedule an appointment with Monica, call her at 801.604.5040.  

Thursday, March 13, 2014

Managing Your Anxiety

A great article:  Anxiety Tools

Contact one of our therapists at Resilient Solutions, Inc in Bountiful for further coaching in managing your anxiety.

Therapists will availability at this time are:

Monica Forsman, LCMHC, 801.604.5040
Lisa Steed, LCSW, 801.231.8914
Lisa Bradford, LCSW, 801.660.8441
Melanie Jackson, LCSW, 801.721.1013
Michael Van Dam, 801.815.6152

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Beauty of the Butterfly

We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely acknowledge the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty. Maya Angelou. 

Thank you, Melanie Jackson, LCSW, for sharing this quote. 

You can reach Melanie at 801-721-1013

Friday, February 28, 2014

Nicole Wall, ACMHC, in Bountiful, Utah.


Nicole Wall, ACMHC, shared the following quote:

"Owning our story can be hard, but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it...Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light." Brene Brown.

You can reach Nicole at 801.660.5233 to schedule an appointment.  

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Helping someone with depression.

Some helpful tips on: Helping someone with depression

For more information, contact Monica Forsman, LCMHC, at 801.604.5040, at Resilient Solutions, Inc. in Bountiful, Utah.

Monday, February 24, 2014

Mindfulness Practice for the Week

1.  Each morning when you awaken, set a clear intention to be kind to yourself today.
2.  Begin to notice the number of times each day you judge or criticize yourself.  How does it feel in your body when you notice this?  Be careful not to judge yourself for judging.  Simply notice, and then make a choice to let the judgment go, returning to your intention of self-kindness.
3.  Practice saying three kind, acknowledging statements to yourself each day. They can be simple, e.g.  "I am grateful that I ate a nutritious lunch today", or "I was really present for my son this morning."  What is most important is not the content of what you say but the process of beginning a new pattern of speaking to yourself with kindness.
4.  Practice "self-blessing" each night before bed.  For example, "May I be peaceful," "May I be safe and protected,"  "May I be healthy,"  "May I be happy,"  Through using these practices you are beginning to re-teach yourself your own loveliness.  --A Year of Living Mindfully, Richard Fields, Ph.D. - Editor

Loving kindness to ourselves helps us give that same loving kindness to others.

Friday, February 21, 2014

Lisa Bradford, LCSW. Bountiful, Utah.

Thank you, Lisa Bradford, LCSW, for sharing the following quote: 

Within the sorrow there is grace. When we come close to the things which break us down, we also touch the things which break us open, and in that breaking open we uncover our true nature. Wayne Muller. 
You can reach Lisa Bradford at 801.660.8441.

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Grief Groups. Bountiful, Utah

Grief Groups led by licensed therapists:

Next groups begin Wednesday, February 19th:
Group for those who have had a loved one die from suicide -- 5:30 - 6:45 (every other week - 6 session group).  Contact Melanie Holt, ACMHC, at 801.718.9840. ($120/6 sessions).

Group for those who have had their spouse die - 7-8:15 (6 weeks - $120).  Contact Melanie Holt, at 801.718.9840.

**Group for those who had had their spouse die (over 55), 6 weeks beginning Tuesday, March 4, 11-12:15.

Groups are held at Resilient Solutions, 1355 N. Main, Ste. 1, Bountiful, Utah.

Monday, February 10, 2014

Finding Balance

Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.

― Brian Tracy


Saturday, February 8, 2014

HOPE

What is hope? It is an expectation of a good that is yet to be/ It is an inner knowing that the future holds positive things. It is trust that no matter the current circumstances, the days to come will reveal a renewed capacity to allow joy and happiness into your soul. -- Alan Wolfelt, Center for Loss.

Friday, February 7, 2014

Hope. Women's Depression Group. Bountiful, Utah

UPDATE: We are keeping this group open for one more week if you know a woman that would like to join. We want to help as many women as we can in finding hope and experiencing joy again! Contact Shannon Day at 801.628.4298 before Monday's group to join us. (The fee is $25/group) Join with other women experiencing depression to find hope and joy again. Ten-week course offered by Becky Andrews, LCMHC, at 801.259.3883 - email:  becky.lpc@gmail.com.  Beginning Mondays, January 27, 5:30 - 6:45. ($25/group - $225/10wkgroup) at Resilient Solutions, Inc.  Space limited.  Register by Friday January 24th.

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Mom's Grief Group. Bountiful, Utah

Our mom's group meets every other Monday from 1:45 - 3:00 PM.  Join with other moms who have had a child die for support, connection and sharing.  Led by Becky Andrews, LCMHC.  Group is $20/group.  To register contact Becky at 801.259.3883 or email:  becky.lpc@gmail.com

Monday, January 27, 2014

Spouse Grief Groups. Bountiful, Utah

We offer two Grief Groups for those who have had a spouse die. A daytime group for 55 and over and an evening group for 20-55.  These six-week groups are led by licensed therapist, Melanie Holt, ACMHC at Resilient Solutions, Inc. Groups begin Wednesday, February 19th. The groups are $120 for group therapy and supplies. To register contact Melanie at melanie_holt@comcast.net

Friday, January 24, 2014

Family Survivors of Suicide Grief Group. Bountiful, Utah.

Part of the healing process is sharing with other people who care.  Jerry Cantrell

Suicide affect not only the individual but also family and friends who provide support and love.  This group offers a place for those affected by suicide to gather and gain strength from one another.  Group facilitated by Licensed Therapist, Melanie Holt.  To register for this group, contact her at 801.718.9840.

Next group begins Wednesday, February 19th.  Six-week group, $120 includes group therapy and group supplies.

Thursday, January 23, 2014

Depression, Support, Sleep.

Support with others who can understand led by a licensed therapist can be very helpful.  Join our upcoming group:  Monday, January 27th, 5:30 - 6:45 PM at Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste. 1, Bountiful, Utah.  (Ten-week group - $225).  Contact Becky Andrews, LCMHC at becky.lpc@gmail.com to register!

Kristen Allott, ND, L.Ac shares Top Ten Things you Can do to treat depression

#2.  Sleep.  Allowing your body to sleep 7-9 hours per day helps the brain heal and build neurotransmitters.  It is important to go to sleep at about the same time and wake up at about the same time.  Early morning waking or not wanting to eat breakfast?  This could be hypoclycemia.  Try eating a slice of turkey before bed and placing 1/4 cup of fruit juice and 1/4 cup of nuts on the bed stand.  When you wake up, eat the juice and nuts.  It will help you go more quickly back to sleep!!

Sunday, January 5, 2014

Michael Van Dam, LCSW. Bountiful, Utah

Michael Van Dam, LCSW, MT-BC, works with adults and children with mood and behavioral challenges including Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and Sexual Addiction. He assists individuals with Aspergers Syndrome. He also provides family counseling and parent coaching to strengthen families and family relationships. Michael integrates client's values into the counseling process and encourages clients to approach their challenges from a faith-based perspective. His clinical skills include the creative application of therapeutic music, art, literature and play.

 To schedule an appointment call Michael at 801-815-6152 or email at: mvandamlcsw@gmail.com.

Thursday, January 2, 2014

Asperger's Syndrome.

If you have not had the opportunity to acquaint yourself with an individual with characteristics related to Aspergers Syndrome, I hope you have the opportunity to do so. If you are an individuals with such characteristics, I hope you recognize the uniqueness in your strength and value as a person.

While Aspergers Syndrome does not define a person, knowing that even within the spectrum no person is alike, the diagnosis can offer insight into an individual's unique way of experiencing the world. I have greatly valued conversations I have had with individuals and families seeking guidance in the area of Aspergers Syndrome. These conversations have allowed me to discover minds, hearts and desires that not only yearn to be understood and considered, but once time and space is provided for these persons to be listened to in full, have offered me profound insight not only into those persons way of thinking, feeling, and understanding, but also into my own. I have marveled at the acute and refined sensitivities demonstrated to matters that I would not consider without them being drawn to my attention. 

If there is one attribute I sense individuals with Aspergers Syndrome might have in common, it would be that of guilelessness. They appear to have no ill intent toward others, which many have sincerely admitted to me. Integrity is a high priority. I admire this greatly.

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Michael Van Dam, LCSW, MT-BC
Individual, Family, and Child Therapist
Resilient Solutions, Inc.
1355 N. Main, Ste. 3,
Bountiful, Utah

Wednesday, January 1, 2014

A New Year ... a new beginning ... change

Happy New Year! One of our favorite quotes from Mahatma Gandhi as we reflect on our resolutions ... goals ... intentions ... for the year: 

You must be the change you wish to see in the world.