As a counselor to individuals, couples, families, and children, I find it satisfying to be able to together with clients discover sound and at times even simple solutions to relational and/or behavioral problems that initially may appear to be complex and difficult to resolve. A model called, "The Parenting Pyramid" presented by The Arbinger Company makes a lot of sense to me. Here's a summary of what the pyramid tells us as it applies to families, though it can be generalized to groups or organizations far beyond the family. Here is how it goes:
1. Although correction is a part of parenthood, IT IS THE SMALLEST PART.
2. The key to effective correction is effective teaching.
3. The key to effective teaching is a good parent/child relationship.
4. The key to a good parent/child relationship is a good husband/wife relationship.
5. The key to a good husband/wife relationship is our personal way of being. Indeed, this quality affects every other aspect of the pyramid; that is why it is the deepest foundation.
When we are wanting to address a concern at any level of the pyramid, it becomes vital that we consider how effectively we are performing in everything that lies below that level and address those matters first or at least simultaneously with the concerns at hand.
I love being given opportunity to apply principles such as this to guide individuals, couples, and families in resolving challenges efficiently, effectively, and with much satisfaction. I can be reached at 801-815-6152 to schedule and appointment.
Michael Van Dam, LCSW
Resilient Solutions, Inc.