Grieving Moms - Tribute Luncheon

Join us for our  annual Mother’s Day Lunch

For moms who have had a child die

Monday, May 5, 2014

12:00 – 2:00 PM

The Wight House

95 North Main

Bountiful, Utah

What to expect:           A peaceful remembering time with other moms

                                           Delicious lunch from the Wight House  

Wondrous companionship and serene encouragement

Love, smiles, tears, affection and understanding

What to bring:              Picture(s) to share if you’d like

$20 per mother for lunch

(This can make a beautiful gift for a mother you know who has had a child die)

Any questions, please call Becky Andrews, LCMHC at 801.259.3883 (becky.lpc@gmail.com) or Melanie Holt, 801.718.9840 (melanie_holt@comcast.net)

Please send the form below and check to Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste. 1, Bountiful, UT 84010 by May 2, 2014.  Please make check payable to:  The Oasis Center. 

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Name _______________________________________________ Child’s Name ______________________

Address _______________________________________________________________________________________________

Email: _________________________________ Phone : _____________________________

Just Listen. Loving Silence.

Just Listen

"I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen.  Just listen.  Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention.  And especially if it's given from the heart.  When people are talking, there's no need to do anything but receive them.  Just take them in.  Listen to what they're saying.  Care about it.  Most times caring about it is even more important than understanding it.  Most of us don't value ourselves or our love enough to know this.  It has taken me a long time to believe in the power of simply saying, "I'm so sorry," when someone is in pain.  And meaning it.

One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like that happen to them.  Subtly her pain became a story about themselves.  Eventually she stopped talking to most people.  It was just too lonely.

I have even learned to respond to someone crying by just listening.  In the old days I used to reach for the tissues, until I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them down, to take them out of their experience of sadness and grief.  Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there with them.  

This simple thing has not been that easy to learn.  I thought people listened only because they were too timid to speak or did not know the answer.  A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well intentioned words."

- Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.

Finding Possibilities

Become a POSSIBILITARIAN.  No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities -- always see them, for they're always there.  Norman Vincent Peale.

At times, we need help finding these possibilities.  If you would like to meet with one of the therapists at Resilient Solutions Inc visit our Therapists page to see which therapist may be the best fit for you in your journey.  

Believe

Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh:  Promise me you'll always remember:  You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.