Thursday, May 30, 2013

Summer Grief Groups. Bountiful, Utah

Summer Grief Support
(6-week Group/$120)

Mom’s Group for women who have had a child die.  Mondays, 10:30 – 11:45 
(Six-week – every other week group: June 3, 17, July 1, 15, 29, August 12)

Dad’s Group for men who have had a child die. 5:30 – 6:45, Wednesday June12 – July 31 (no groups July 3 & 24)

Teen Group (for teens who have had a loved one die.),  11-12.  Mondays June 17 – July 22.

Mindfully Grieving Group, Evening Group. (for those experiencing a loss – come learn healthy mindful skills in the grieving process)  Six-week June 12- July 31 (no groups July 3 & 24), 7-8:15 PM

Mindfully Grieving Group, Day Group. (for those experiencing a loss – come learn healthy mindful skills in the grieving process).  Contact Becky, 801.259.3883 for time.

Evening Grief Group (Suicide – for those experiencing the loss of a loved one from suicide)  Tuesdays, 5:30 – 6:45, June 11 – July 16

Evening Grief Group for those experiencing the death of a spouse.  Evening Grief Group for those experiencing the death of a loved one.  Tuesdays, 7:00 – 8:15 June 11 – July 16

Within each of us is the capacity to heal,
and at any given moment we do the best we can.

Groups facilitated by Becky Andrews, LCMHC, FT and Melanie Holt, LAPC
Licensed therapists specializing in grief and loss.
Register for these groups by calling Becky at 801.259.3883 or Melanie at 801.718.9840
Email: or

Resilient Solutions, Inc.
1355  N. Main, Ste. 1
Bountiful, Utah

Saturday, May 25, 2013

Vulnerability - Wholehearted Living

If you haven't yet, listen:

If you'd like to schedule an appointment with one of our therapists at RSI in Bountiful, Utah visit our website at:  Resilient Solutions, Inc.

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Summer Grief Support.

Resilient Center for Grieving Families will be offering several specialized grief groups this summer.  Each group is offered for 6-weeks/$120 for the full group session.  If you'd like more information, please contact Becky Andrews, LCMHC, or Melanie Holt, LAPC, at   All groups are offered at Resilient Solutions, Inc. at 1355 N. Main, Ste. 1, Bountiful, Utah

Mom's Group:  For women who have had a child die.  Mondays, 10:30 - 11:45 to begin June 3 (every other week).

Dad's Group: for men who have had a child die.  Wednesday, June 12 - July 31 5:40 - 6:45 (excluding July 3 & 24)

Teen Group: for teens who have had a loved one die.  Mondays, 11-12, June 17-July 22.

Mindfully Evening Grieving Group:  June 12-July 31, 7-8:15 PM

Mindfully Day Grieving Group:  To be announced.

Grief Group for those who have had a loved one die from Suicide:  Tuesdays, 5:30 - 6:45, June 11-July 16

Grief Group for those experiencing the death of a spouse:  Tuesdays, 7-8:15, June 11-July 16.

Thursday, May 9, 2013

Soulful Eating. Becky Crowther, RD

We are pleased that Becky Crowther, Registered and Certified Dietitian, is in our office!  You can contact her to set up an appointment at 801.682.6664 or email:

Today she shared with our staff:  10 tips to Soulful Eating.

1.  Focus on fellowship.  Dine with others, sharing your meal with family and friends.
2.  Give thanks.  Express and feel gratitude for your food, acknowledge your connection with all life.
3.  Create a ritual.  Any practice that connects us with the sacred; prayer, a moment of contemplation, visualization, etc.
4. Grow your own.  Grow your own herbs, or garden in the back yard.  Help reconnect you to the 'circle' of life.
5.  Plan ahead.  Always carry fresh water and a healthy snack with you.  Making time and planning for your needs will give you a sense of peace and calm.
6.  Slow down.  Pause briefly to reflect on your food and observe what it provides for you.  Think about why you are eating at the moment and what stage of hunger you are in.
7.  Buy local.  There is something about eating 'home-grown' and fresh..  Usually tastes better than supermarket anyway and gives you a more interesting variety.  Allows you to eat with the seasons.
8.  Eat outside.  There's something about nature that makes you feel like a part of something greater than yourself.  A delight to the senses.
9.  Connect with the present moment.  In both preparing and eating meal, focus on appearance, aroma, texture, and taste.
10.  Go with the flow.  These changes take time - let them occur naturally.  Small changes make a big difference.

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Mothers who are Grieving

We had our annual Mother's Day Luncheon for mother's who are grieving the death of a child. I love these women and love to transform our group room into a place for a lunch and a time to remember them and their children who have died.
What Grieving Mothers Want for Mother's Day

By Renee Wood

Over 80 percent of the nearly 100 respondents in a survey of mothers who are grieving answered, "Recognize that I am a mother" to the question of how can someone help. In addition, nearly every mother surveyed wanted their loss to be remembered with a card, a phone call, a gift or a hug. Over half of the mothers surveyed considered Mother's Day to be their most difficult holiday.
In response to the heartfelt answers given by the survey participants, the Comfort Company has issued a list of the ten things grieving mothers want most for Mother's Day:
1. Recognize that they are a Mother: Offer a hug and a "Happy Mother's Day". Send a simple Mother's Day card to let them know you remember that they are a mother even though their child is not with them physically.
2. Acknowledge that they have had a loss: Express the message, "I know this might be a difficult day for you. I want you to know that I am thinking about you today." Removing the wall of silence gives a grieving mother permission to talk about her child.
3. Use their child's name in conversation: Saying the name of a child who has died is like music to a grieving mothers ears. One mother suggested, "Say his name and ask me my fondest memory of him from past Mother's Days".
4. Plant a living memorial: This is a wonderful day to plant a tree or flower bulbs in memory of the child. This is something that will live on as a beautiful reminder in the years to come.

5. Visit the Gravesite: Many mothers felt that it was "extremely thoughtful" when others visited their child's gravesite and left flowers or a small pebble near the headstone.

6. Light a Candle: Let the mother know you will light a candle in memory of their child on Mother's Day.

7. Share a Memory or Pictures of the Child: Give the precious gift of a memory. One mother wrote that the "greatest gift you can give is a heart felt letter about my child and your most lovely moments with them".

8. Send a Gift of Remembrance: Many mothers suggested appropriate gifts of remembrance that would bring them comfort. These items included: an angel statue, a piece of jewelry, a memory box, a memorial candle, a picture frame, a library book donation, an ornament, memorial poetry, anything personalized with the child's name or a date, books on grief, a garden stone or a toy donation in the child's name.

9. Don't try to minimize their loss: Avoid using any cliches that attempt to explain the death of a child. ( "God needed another angel.") Secondly, don't try to find anything positive about the loss ( "You still have two healthy children" or "She's in a better place").

10. Encourage Self-Care: Self-care is an important aspect of the "healing the mind and spirit effort" according to several mothers. Encourage a grieving mother to take care of herself. Give her a gift certificate to a day spa or any place where she can be pampered.