Parenting Course. Michael Van Dam, LCSW

Coming Home.  Parents Make the Difference

Please join Michael Van Dam, LCSW, in a group where parents will further their vision on how to make home a place where the family can THRIVE.  The following concepts will be addressed:

1) Through the eyes of a child.
2) Coming to ourselves (prioritizing, simplifying)
3) It's the relationship that counts.
4) Parenting Principles and practices.
5) Creating meaningful family culture

Thursday Evenings, 7-8:30 PM, February 7- March 7 at Resilient Solutions, Inc, Ste 3, 1355 North Main, Bountiful, Utah.

Contact Michael Van Dam at 801.815.6152 to register. Cost is $150 for the course.

Talking with your Children

Thank you Dr. Lydia Mays who sent me the following:

In response to the possible need to talk with children directly affected by, or halfway around the world who hear about, the devastating shooting in the Connecticut Elementary School the below email is from a well-respected colleague and includes information that some of you may find helpful and/or may want to share with other parents, teachers or educational stakeholders. 

I’m sure you’ve probably heard or read by now that there was a school shooting at an elementary school in Connecticut. You may get parents or teachers asking what to do in light of this. I got this list from my son’s school (Friends School of Atlanta [FSA]), and I thought it was worth sharing with you and, if you wish to disseminate, with the teachers we serve.

FSA offers the following suggestions:

• Shelter younger children from graphic media reports
• If your child/student asks about it, try to stay calm, and choose a quiet place with few distractions
• Stay as calm as possible; children pick up on the feelings of others
• Focus on your child/student's feelings and thoughts, without judgment or suggestions
• Reassure your child/student, and try to help find ways of coping, such as discussing how your student is protected, and what positive actions your student might be able to take
  • Talk about safety measures being taken; the National Crime Prevention Council publication shown below might be helpful for this discussion
  • Talk about your family's safety rules and plans
• Maintain routines and structures; they are reassuring during times of stress
• Provide facts, in keeping with your child/student's age and maturity
• Open a way for your child/student to communicate new thoughts and fears as they arise
• Give plenty of hugs and attention, even if your child/student does not show outward signs of distress
• Take advantage of organizations providing help:
  • The Lucy Daniels Center gives age-specific suggestions
  • Mental Health America also offers suggestions, along with a list of signs that indicate a child may need help
  • The New York Child Study Center has published a report, "Caring for Kids After Trauma, Disaster and Death: A Guide for Parents and Professionals"
  • The National Crime Prevention Council offers "Stopping School Violence: A Dozen Things..."

The National Association of School Psychologists offers "Talking to Children About Violence: Tips for Parents and Teachers"—this publication provides a helpful list of talking points.

Caitlin McMunn Dooley, Ph.D.

Associate Professor

Early Childhood Education Department

Georgia State University

Atlanta, GA

If you would like to speak to a therapist in our office in Bountiful, Utah - visit our website or you can contact them directly.  

Lisa Bradford, LCSW, 801.660.8441

Monica Forsman, LAPC, 801.604.5040

Melanie Holt, LAPC, 801.718.9840

Lisa Steed, LCSW, 801.231.8914

Micahel Van Dam, LCSW, 801.815.6152

Cultivating Gratitude

I recently attended an interesting conference on Cultivating Gratitude Through Mindfulness and Self-Reflection.  The presenter, Gregg Krech, indicated that this reflection can not only be helpful in cultivating gratitude but in conflict resolutions, finding our purpose, and working through challenging times.

As we approach Thanksgiving, we know many are going through difficult times.   I am grateful to work with some incredible colleagues/therapists.  If you need to reach out to a professional at this time, please contact one of our therapists.  The following have availability at this time:

Lisa Bradford, LCSW, 801.660.8441
Monica Forsman, LAPC, 801.604.5040
Melanie Holt, LAPC, 801.718.9840
Trisha Jensen, LCSW, 801.541.4944
Lisa Steed, LCSW, 801.231.8914
Michael Van Dam, LCSW, 801.815.6152

Grief Retreats

Finding our Resilience in Grief.

Come join with others who are grieving a loss in a beautiful setting - St. George, Utah. To be held at the beautiful Coral Springs Resort

2013 scheduled dates:  February 3, 7 pm - February 6, 11 am.
                                    March 6, 7 pm - March 9, 11 am
                                    April 14, 7 pm - April 17, 11 am
                                    May 1, 7 pm - May 4, 11 am (Mother's Retreat)

For more information, contact Becky Andrews, LPC, FT at 801.259.3883 or email:  becky.lpc@gmail.com

Women's Divorce Group

Women’s Divorce Group

Facilitated by Melanie Holt, LAPC

801.718.9840

Divorce and separation are filled with grief, pain, confusion, fear, stress, role change, and many other expected and unexpected feelings and experiences.

This is a time when many people feel isolated and have a lot of questions about things they have never faced before.

The group experience offers an opportunity to learn and share ideas, feelings, and experiences in a safe and supportive forum with others in similar circumstances.

Tuesday Evening, 7:00-8:30

October 23- November 27

6-week group/$150.00

The group will include education on grief, self-esteem, stress, anxiety, depression, and changing thoughts through the application of positive psychology.  The group will take time to process information as it relates to individuals each week.

Resilient Solutions

1355 North Main, Suite 1

Bountiful, Utah

A Course on Strengthening Families

“Come Home”

A course on Strengthening Families

This course is geared toward parents, single parents, grandparents and any others seeking to fortify and secure their homes and families, recognizing the concern that family foundations are being eroded by external pressures and corrosive influences. The group is designed to be both educational and experiential such that group members will have vision and enthusiasm for what is possible for them to create in their own homes. The principles outlined will be explored through the application of music, literature, and group discussion.

   Reinforcing principles of:

1)     Seeing Things as they Really Are

2)     Creating Simplicity (Prioritizing)

3)     Securing Family Relationships

4)     Practicing Christ-like Parenting

5)     Creating Family Culture

Thursday Evenings at 7:00 – 8:30 pm

October 25 – November 29

Cost: $150

Please contact Michael Van Dam, LCSW for details

801-815-6152

Resilient Solutions, Inc.

1355 N. Main, Ste 3, Bountiful

A Mother Shares

Our mom's group (for mom's who have had a child die) meet Mondays - 11-12:30. The following was shared today by one of the moms: BJ's flowers teach lessons on loss, grief, healing and love | ksl.com When a friend took the flowers off the table decorations after a funeral and planted them in her yard, she began a lovely tradition of bringing a bouquet of those pretty yellow flowers each year to the family who lost their 16-year-old son to cancer. For more information on our mom's group, call Becky Andrews, LPC, FT at 801.259.3883.

Support for Teens who are Grieving

Our next 6-week grief group for teens, 12-17, will begin, Monday, October 22, 4 - 5:15 at Resilient Solutions, Inc, Suite 1, Bountiful, Utah. Contact Becky Andrews, LPC, FT at 801.259.3883 or Melanie Holt, LAPC, 801.718.9840 for further details. Helping Teenagers Cope with Grief, by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Teenagers Mourn Too Each year thousands of teenagers experience the death of someone they love. When a parent, sibling, friend or relative dies, teens feel the overwhelming loss of a someone who helped shape their self-identities. And these feelings about the death become a part of their lives forever. Caring adults, whether parents, teachers, counselor or friends, can help teens during this time. If adults are open, honest and loving, experiencing the loss of someone can be a change for young people to learn about both the joy and pain that comes from caring deeply for others.

Support for those who have had a loved one die from Suicide

Our next group will begin Tuesday, October 9th, 5:30- 6:45 at Resilient Solutions, Inc. 1355 N. Main, Ste. 1, Bountiful, Utah. For details call Melanie Holt, at 801.718.9840. ($95 for 6-week group session). A former group member shares her experience: When my entire world was turned upside down after my husband died from suicide, I only had a handful of people or things I could count on. This group became one of my most reliable and stady constants in the world of turmoil I was living in. The ideas and thoughts presented helped me work through the emotions that were swirling around in my confused head. It helped me realize that I was not crazy and that it was ok for me to feel the way that I did. I felt safe to grieve. Overall, I would not have progressed as far as I have on the path if it wasn't for the support of this group.

Mom's Group. Support for those who have had a child die.

Join with other mom's who have experienced the loss of their child. This group meets Mondays, 11 - 12:30 at Resilient Solutions, Inc in Bountiful. Group is $15/group session. Questions - call Becky at 801.259.3883.

Learn skills to decrease stress and anxiety

Mindful Living

Tension is who you think you should be.  Relaxation is who you are.  ~Chinese Proverb

  

Adult Mindful Group

Learn skills to decrease stress and anxiety through the practice of Yoga, mindfulness, and techniques for overcoming disabling thoughts.

  

Friday, 11:00 - 12:30 beginning October 5 (6 sessions/$150.00)

Groups will be facilitated by Melanie Holt LAPC and Sarah Horne Yoga and fitness specialist.

  

                      To register please contact: Melanie Holt at 801-718-9840. 

All Groups are held at Resilient Solutions, Inc.

1355 N. Main, Ste. 1

Bountiful, Utah 84010

www.resilientsolutionsinc.com

Adjusting to the death of a loved one to Suicide

Our next group for Adjusting to the death of a loved one to Suicide will begin Tuesday, September 18th, 5:30 - 6:45.  This will be a small group of others who can understand.  If you would like to join us, please contact Melanie Holt, LAPC at 801.718.9840.  Group will run 6-weeks, ($15/week) with option of continuing.  

Grief Support in Bountiful, Utah.

Dr. Alan Wolfelt discusses healing in Ten Touchstones.  Touchstone One:  Open to the presence of your loss.  To heal in grief is to become whole again, to integrate your grief into your self and to learn to continue your changed life with fullness and meaning.  Experiencing a new and changed "wholeness" requires that you engage in the work of mourning.  Healing is a holistic concept that embraces the physical, emotional, cognitive, social and spiritual realms.

To suppress the grief, the pain is to condemn oneself to a living death.  Living fully means feeling fully; it means being completely one with what you are experiencing and not holding it at arm's length.  Philip Kapleau

Our next grief groups will begin in September.  Groups are $15/group session ($95 for 6-week group) and we will be offering groups for adults, teens and children.  Contact Melanie Holt, LAPC, 801.718.9840 or Becky Andrews, LPC, FT, for more information.

You are not alone

There is much healing in a group setting. One group member recently shared the following: When it hurts to look back and you're afraid to look ahead; look beside you and there will be your friends. She indicated it reminded her of a group she attends in our office. This Fall we will be offering groups: Michael Van Dam, LCSW, 801.815.6152, Group for children who are experiencing the effects of a divorce Lisa Bradford, LCSW, 801.660.8441, Group for women - RISE (resilient individual succeeding from emotional and sexual trauma) Becky Andrews, LPC, FT, 801.259.3883, and Melanie Holt, LAPC, 801.718.9840 - offering grief and loss groups.

Magnificent Seven. Marital Therapy

Dr. John Lund refers to the Magnificent Daily Seven in a Marriage:

- Say I love you with eye contact
- Five-second kiss
- 10-second expression of appreciation
- 15-minute honey do (in your partner's love language)
- 25-second written expression
- 20-second hug
- 30-minute talk time

For further help, contact one of our therapists at Resilient Solutions, Inc. in Bountiful.

Summer Grief Group. Bountiful, Utah

Out of loss can come hope, not from forgetting or letting go of love, but through sharing with others.


Our next two grief groups:

Adult Group for those experiencing the loss of a loved one:
Tuesdays beginning July 17th, 5:30 - 6:45, ($15/group = 8 weeks/$120)

Teen Group for those experiencing the loss of a loved one:
Tuesdays beginning July 31, 5:30 - 6:45 ($15/group = 4 weeks/$60)

To register for a group or more information, contact Melanie Holt, LAPC, at 801.718.9840

Ongoing Group -- Mom's Group, Mondays, 11:30 - 1:00.  Contact Becky at 801.259.3883 for details.

Principles for Individuals, Couples and Families

As a counselor to individuals, couples, families, and children, I find it satisfying to be able to together with clients discover sound and at times even simple solutions to relational and/or behavioral problems that initially may appear to be complex and difficult to resolve. A model called, "The Parenting Pyramid" presented by The Arbinger Company makes a lot of sense to me. Here's a summary of what the pyramid tells us as it applies to families, though it can be generalized to groups or organizations far beyond the family. Here is how it goes:

1. Although correction is a part of parenthood, IT IS THE SMALLEST PART.

2. The key to effective correction is effective teaching.

3. The key to effective teaching is a good parent/child relationship.

4. The key to a good parent/child relationship is a good husband/wife relationship.

5. The key to a good husband/wife relationship is our personal way of being. Indeed, this quality affects every other aspect of the pyramid; that is why it is the deepest foundation.

When we are wanting to address a concern at any level of the pyramid, it becomes vital that we consider how effectively we are performing in everything that lies below that level and address those matters first or at least simultaneously with the concerns at hand.

I love being given opportunity to apply principles such as this to guide individuals, couples, and families in resolving challenges efficiently, effectively, and with much satisfaction. I can be reached at 801-815-6152 to schedule and appointment.

Michael Van Dam, LCSW

Resilient Solutions, Inc.

Fear

Fear is a powerful emotion.  It can feel so intense that it creates a sense of being emotionally paralyzed.

The following are quotes about fear that can be inspiring and motivate change.

          “Fear is the main source of superstition, and one of the main sources of cruelty.  To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom.”

Bertrand Russell

          “Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out.”

Karl Augustus Menninger

          “ You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.  You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

          “Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.”

Helen Keller

If you have any questions or want to schedule an appointment please contact Lisa Bradford, LCSW at 801-660-8441

Summer Evening Adult Grief Group

Out of loss can come hope, not from forgetting or letting go of love, but through sharing with others.

Our next 8-week Summer Grief Group will begin Tuesday, July 10th

5:30 - 6:45 PM at Resilient Solutions, Inc., 1355 N. Main, Ste.1, in Bountiful.

Join with others who are experiencing the loss of a loved one.

(8-weeks, $120)

To register for this group or to meet with a therapist specializing in grief/loss, contact Melanie Holt, LAPC, 801.718.9840.

Managing Anger

All people experience anger during their lifetime.  Anger is an intense emotion that if left unresolved, can contribute to negative choices of behavior.  The good thing is that anger can be managed with some basic skills.   In Harriet G. Lerner’s book “The Dance of Anger”, she provides some suggestions on what to do and what not to do when angry.  The following are some of her suggestions:

1)   “Do Speak in “I” Language. Learn to say, “I think…,” “I feel…,”  “I fear…,” “I want…”  A true “I” statement says something about the self without criticizing or blaming the other person and without holding the other person responsible for our feelings or reactions….”

2)   “Do try to appreciate the fact that people are different. We move away from fused relationships when we recognize that there are as many ways of seeing the world, as there are different people in it.  Different perspectives and ways of reacting do not necessarily mean that one person is ‘right’ and the other ‘wrong.’ “

3)   “Don’t strike while the iron is hot. A good fight will clear the air in some relationships.  But if your goal is to change a bad pattern, the worst time to speak up may be when you are feeling angry or intense.  If your fires start rising in the middle of a conversation, you can always say, “I need a little time to sort my thoughts out. Lets set up another time to talk about it more.” Seeking temporary distance is not the same as cold withdrawal of an emotional cutoff.”

4)   “Don’t make vague requests.  Let the other person know specifically what you want. Don’t expect people to anticipate your needs or do things that you have not requested. Even those who love you cannot read your mind.

 With these basic skills we can better manage anger and have relationships with less conflict. 

If you have any questions or want to make an appointment, please contact Lisa Bradford, LCSW,  at 801-660-8441.

Teen Self-esteem Group

8-week group to increase self-esteem.  Topics will include:  self-nurturing, stress management, boundary setting, trust issues, and relationship skills.

Starts June 25th from 1:30 - 3:00 PM

Location:  Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste 1, Bountiful, Utah

Contact Lisa Bradford, LCSW, with any questions and to register at 801.660.8441.

Summer Grief Groups. Bountiful, Utah

Out of loss can come hope, not from forgetting or letting go of love, but through sharing with others.


Summer Grief Groups

Day Grief Group.  Join with others who are experiencing the death of a loved one.  Tuesdays, 11:30 - 1:00 beginning June 19th (12 sessions/$195 - $15/group)

Evening Grief Group.  Join with others who are experiencing the death of a love one.  Tuesdays,  6:30 - 7:45 beginning June 12th (12 sessions/$195 - $15/group)

Contact Becky Andrews, LPC, FT, at 801.259.3883 or Melanie Holt, LAPC, at 801.718.9840 for questions and to register for one of our groups.

All groups are held at Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste. 1, Bountiful, Utah 84010, www.resilientsolutionsinc.com.

Boundaries

Boundaries: Boundaries are an important part of healthy relationships and healthy living. In the book “Boundaries: When to Say Yes When to Say No to take control of your life” Dr Cloud and Dr Townsend define boundaries as “what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership.” When a person has an understanding of their personal boundaries then they know what they are responsible for and what they need from the people around them. Personal boundaries are individual to each person. My boundaries may be different from your boundaries. I can’t look to other people to determine what my boundaries should be; I can only find those answers within myself. If you have any questions or would like to make an appointment, you can contact Lisa Bradford at 801-660-8441.

Self-Nurturing. Lisa Bradford, LCSW

Self-Nurturing is taking care of oneself and a way to rejuvenate. Taking time to be alone with oneself and engaging in self-nurturing can be very healing. There are many ways to self-nurture. Some examples are: Take a bubble bath, take a walk, listen to relaxing music, or do yoga. Taking time everyday to self-nurture can help an individual to have a stronger inner focus and understanding of their emotions. In Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s book, she addresses the need for women to have time alone in order to find the “true essence of themselves”. Self-nurturing is a way to identify emotional needs and to rejuvenate the soul.
For more information about self-nurturing or to schedule an appointment you can contact Lisa Bradford, LCSW at 801-660-8441.

Mindfulness/Self-Compassion Class

You can still join us for our 8-week Mindfulness Class, Tuesday, May 1st - 5-6:15 PM at Resilient Solutions, Inc., 1355 N. Main, Ste. 1, Bountiful, Utah.  Group is $38/group session.  Contact Becky Andrews, LPC, 801.259.3883, email: becky.lpc@gmail.com for further information.

Christopher Germer, Self-Compassion and Mindfulness, states:

Some people worry that self-compassion will close them off from other people by making them selfish and self-centered.  The reverse is actually the case -- the more open hearted we are with ourselves, the closer we feel toward the rest of life.  Self-compassion is the foundation for kindness toward others.  When we're more accepting of our own, we become more accepting of others.  Full acceptance of ourselves, moment to moment makes it easier to adapt and change in the direction we'd like to go.

Support for Women who have had their mother's die

Wednesday, May 9, 2012, 5:30 - 7:00 PM at Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste. 3, Bountiful, Utah

Join us for an evening of peaceful remembering, delicious nourishment from understanding women, wondrous companionship and serene encouragement, love, smiles, and understanding.

Faciliated by Becky Andrews, LPC, FT. To register contact becky at becky.lpc@gmail.com. Dinner/group = $25.

Welcome Melanie Holt, LAPC

We are pleased to welcome Melanie Holt, LAPC to our office. She brings a passion for her work as a therapist and a strong background working with adolescents, women, and couples.

Melanie Holt, LAPC, provides individual, family, couple and group therapy at Resilient Solutions. Melanie has experience with addiction and other compulsive behaviors, including the effect of sexual addiction on couples. Melanie specializes in grief and addictions counseling and treatment. Melanie incorporates a holistic approach to the healing process. She has a bachelor’s degree in Health Promotion, and a Master’s of Science degree in professional counseling. Melanie is available to schedule an appointment at (801)718-9840.

Mother's Day Support

Lunch and support for mother's who have had a child die:

Mom's Grief Group, Monday, May 7, 11:30 - 1:00 at Resilient Solutions, Inc.

What to expect: A peaceful remembering time in a location of serenity, wondrous companionship and serene encouragement, delicious nourishment from understanding women, take home treasures, and love, smiles, and understanding.

Faciliated by: Becky Andrews, LPC, FT
Licensed Professional Counselor and Fellow of Thanatology.

To register: Contact Becky at becky.lpc@gmail.com. ($25 for lunch and support group).

Grief Group Members Share

Grief group members shared some of what others have done that has helped:

"When someone sends me a card in the mail telling me they are still thinking of me and praying for me."

"When someone asks me sincerely how I am doing."

"I have appreciated people that have taken time to share with me their memories and/or good experiences with my son."

"The person that took a picture of the parking lot the day of the funeral so I could remember all who were there for us."

Our Spring/Summer Groups will begin the first week in May. Contact Becky Andrews, LPC, FT for further details at becky.lpc@gmail.com. Ongoing groups: Mom's Grief Group - Mondays, 11:30 - 1:00; Men's Grief Group - Thursdays 5:30 - 7:00.

Anger Management

10 Ways to Lessen Anger

How do you react when someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you experience your blood pressure starting to boil when your child does not cooperate with your wishes? Anger can be a normal and even healthy emotion; however, there is a big difference of handling it in a positive way versus in the negative and losing control of your emotions.

Letting our anger get out of control can make you and others feel badly. If you are noticing that your frustrations, outbursts, or rages are negatively affecting your relationships with your family, friends, co-workers, and even strangers, it’s time to step back and reflect on what is going on with your inner feelings.

Here are 10 tips from the MayoClinic.com that you can use to help manage your anger. Research has revealed that anger management techniques are a proven way to help assist in changing how you express your anger.

1. Take a personal “timeout.” It may seem like a simple thing; however, counting to 10 before reacting can really help you dampen your temper.
2. Get some space. Take a break from the person you’re frustrated with – let your negative feelings rest a little.
3. When feeling calmer, express your frustration. Expressing your frustrations in a non-confrontational way is healthy! The situation can become more difficult if you stew about it.
4. Get some exercise. Physical activity can give you an outlet for your emotions/feelings, especially if you are about to explode. Go on a brisk walk/run, swim, lift weights, shoot baskets, etc.
5. Think carefully, before you say anything. You can easily get sidetracked when you’re angry. You are more likely to say something you’ll regret, if you don’t stop and think before you speak your mind. Try journaling – focus on what you want to say and write it down.
6. Identify solutions to the situation. To resolve the issue, work with the individual who triggered your anger; instead of focusing on what made you mad.
7. Use “I” statements when describing the problem. For example, to lessen the chance of increasing the tension and making the other person angry or resentful, try saying: “I’m upset you didn’t help with the housework this evening,” instead of saying “You should have helped with the housework.”
8. Stay away from holding a grudge. By forgiving the other person, this can help both of you. It is an unrealistic belief to expect everyone to behave exactly the way you want them to.
9. Use humor to release tensions/frustrations. Lighten up! This can help lessen tension. However, don’t be tempted to use sarcasm, it can deepen hurt feelings and actually make things worse.
10. Practice relaxation skills. Learning techniques on how to relax and de-stress, can also help to control your temper if/when it should flare up. Practice deep-breathing exercises, such as: visualizing a relaxing scene, repeat a peaceful word or phrase to yourself, e.g. “take it easy,” “peace,” “one,” etc. Other proven ways to lessen your anger or frustration can be listening to uplifting music, writing down your thoughts (journaling), and doing yoga, etc.

For questions, information, and therapy on recognizing the many forms of anger, contact Monica Forsman, M.Ed., LAPC at Resilient Solutions, Inc., in Bountiful, Utah.
Monica can be reached at (801) 604-5040 or email at: monica.lapc@gmail.com

Grief Support

Help thy brother's boat across, and lo! thine own has reached the shore. --Hindu Proverb

You can join our Men's Grief Group by contacting Mark de St Aubin, LCSW, FT, at 581-8901. They meet Thursday evenings, 8-weeks.

Our Spring Grief Groups will begin the week of March 19th. Contact Becky Andrews, LPC, FT, at 801.259.3883 for details.

Circle the Wagons. Vickie Walker.

Director and President of Circle the Wagon Foundation , Vickie Walker will speak on Wednesday, February 22nd, 7 PM at Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste. 3, Bountiful, Utah.

Please RSVP to Becky Andrews, LPC, FT at 801.259.3883 or email:  becky.lpc@gmail.com.

Mindfulness and Well-being

Every mindful step we make and every mindful breath we take will establish peace ... If we transform our individual consciousness, we begin the process of changing the collective consciousness.  Thich Nhat Hanh

Our next Mindfulness Courses have started - you still can join in this week by contacting Becky at 801.259.3883 or email:  becky.lpc@gmail.com

Wednesday evening class:  5:15 - 6:30 PM, Thursday class:  1:15 - 2:30 at
1355 N. Main, Ste, 1, Bountiful, Utah - Resilient Solutions, Inc.

Course text:  A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook by Bob Stahl & Elisha Goldstein. 

Separated and Divorced Adults

Reflect and Rebuild

A support group for Separated and Divorced Adults
Facilitated by Nicole Huefner, MSW, CSW

Enhance - Cope - Grow

Mission Statement:  To help enhance personal well-being and strength through mutual support and sharing. 

The cost for the group is $25 per session or $130 for all six weeks.

Group begins Friday, February 10th 7 - 8:30 PM at Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste. 3, Bountiful

Contact Nicole at 801.230.0064 to register. 

Parenting Forum. Michael Van Dam, LCSW

A vital way to help a struggling child is to help the family.  Many children's mental, emotional and behavioral challenges can emerge from disruptions in home life and family relationships.  Fortifying families can help preempt conditions that can later require extensive treatment to correct.  Held weekly on Tuesdays, 7-8:30 PM.  Parents may attend as long and as frequently as they feel would be beneficial.  $250 per couple or individual.  For registration, please contact Michael Van Dam, LCSW, at 801.815.6152 or vandam. michael@gmail.com

Grief Gathering for Valentine's Day

Resilient Center for Grieving Families invites you to our annual Valentine's Day Support for those grieving the loss of a loved one.

You are not alone.

Saturday, February 11th, 2012
10:30 - 11:30 AM at
Resilient Solutions, Inc
1355 N. Main, Ste. 1 & 3
Bountiful, Utah

RSVP to Becky at 801.259.3883 or email:  becky.lpc@gmail.com by Wednesday, February 8th. 

Reflect and Rebuild Group

Nicole Huefner, MSW, CSW, is offering a 6-week support group for Separated and Divorced Adults. 

Mission Statement:  To help enhance personal well-being and strength through mutual support and sharing.

The cost for the group is $25 per session or $130 for all 6 weeks.

Meetings will be held for six weeks on Friday evenings from 7-8:30 PM beginning February 10th at Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste 3,  Bountiful.

Please call or email any questions to 801.230.0064 or nicole_huefner@hotmail.com.

Mindfulness. An Eight-Week Plan

Join Becky and Christy for an 8-week Mindfulness class.  Our next courses will begin Wed February 1st, 5:15 - 6:30 or Thursday February 2nd, 1:15 - 2:30.  Space is limited. 

What are some of the benefits of mindfulness meditation?
--Anxiety, depression and irritability all decrease with regular sessions of meditation.  Memory improves, reactions times become faster and mental and physical stamina increase.
--Regular meditators enjoy better and more fulfilling relationships
--Studies worldwide have found that meditation reduces the key indicators of chronic stress, including hypertension.
--Meditation has always been found to be effective in reducing the impact of serious conditions, such as chronic pain and can even help to relieve drug and alcohol dependence.
--Studies have now shown that meditation bolsters the immune system and thus helps to fight off colds, flu and other diseases.  --Mark Williams and Danny Penman, Mindfulness, An eightweek plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World.

Course is $295 for the 8-week course.  Contact Becky Andrews, LPC, FT (801.259.3883) or Christy Cox, LCSW (801.243.4959) for more details.

Alleviating Stress

Do you feel stressed? You might feel as if you are “juggling many balls in the air” throughout each day: family, home, work, and relationships. You can feel you are running in circles even if you are sitting down. Wear and tear on your body, mind, and emotions can result in stress that continues to increase…
As we begin this New Year, many of us desire to approach life a little differently than before- but we don’t really know where to start. Sometimes it’s the simple, basic things that can help us the most. Here is a 6-step, 6-second relaxation tip from Robin S. Rosenberg, Ph.D.

1. Notice that you’re stressed – Some individuals may tense certain muscles, others may feel their heart beating faster, or others can become consumed with thinking about their stressful situation. Recognizing early on your personal reaction to stress is your red flag to continue with the next step.

2. Find a little humor in your circumstance – Humor is a great way to reduce stress. Some examples: You can imagine a funny hat or face paint on a person you feel is being difficult. You may find something silly about your situation. If this doesn’t work, you can think about something else that was humorous; a movie clip, a funny situation you were in earlier, or a hilarious joke. Whether you’re smiling inside or out, this can start to lower your stress level.

3. Breathe in deeply – Put your hands on your abdomen. Slowly and deeply breathe in through your nose and fill your diaphragm with air. Your abdomen (lower belly) will get bigger as you slowly breath in (your hands should rise with your abdomen). Feel the air enter your chest and going down toward your belly button. Be patient; this may take a little practice!

4. Begin exhaling – After slowly breathing in, start to slowly breathe out through your mouth. While you’re slowly breathing out, take note that your abdomen is slowly lowering.

5. Speak out a peaceful word or phrase – As you’re breathing out, say a peaceful word or phrase, such as “calm” or “peace.” If you already meditate, and have a mantra, you could use that too. If this doesn’t work, try using the word “one.” You can use a word or visualize something, as long as it relaxes you.

6. Pay attention to your muscles to make sure they’re less tense – If they’re still tense, try “shaking out” the tightness from that muscle.

This simple exercise can help you feel a little calmer and lower your stress level. If you feel stressed at any time throughout the day, you can use these relaxation tips, and as many times as you would like. As you first learn these 6 techniques, it may take you a little longer than 6 seconds; but you’ll soon get the hang of it and see that it really works!

For questions, information, and therapy on recognizing the many forms of stress, contact Monica Forsman, M.Ed., LAPC at Resilient Solutions, Inc., in Bountiful, Utah.

Monica can be reached at (801) 604-5040 or email at: monica.lapc@gmail.com

Men's Grief Group.

There are a lot of things men suffer alone. That's part of our DNA. We find great personal satisfaction in accomplishing on our own, independently. We famously won't ask for directions, won't admit when we are lost – we prefer to find our own way home. And eventually we do. Most of the time. And that's fine; that's our way.
But, as new and continuing research shows, there's one loss that men could use a little help from their friends to cope with. That's the loss of a spouse or a lover or a parent or a child or a lifelong friend. And it's often help that only other men can provide. Because we understand, many times without saying the words, where you're at, how you got there and even why. Although everyone's grieving process is unique, research shows that, faced with the loss of a spouse or partner, men report feeling “lonely, lost, dismembered, and numb.” They tend to seek activity and coping skills.

Those of us who have been where you now may find yourself (or lost yourself), after losing the love of your life, have gained a little information, have put together a kit of coping tools that belong in your garage right about now.

You are not alone and you don't need to go through this alone. There's another guy in your community in the same place as you and in this case – trust us – two or more heads and hearts are better than one.  A men’s 8-week Grief Group is being held in Bountiful starting this January 19th each Thursday evening, 5:30 - 7:00 PM for 8 weeks. If you would like to learn more about this group, give Mark de St. Aubin, LCSW, FT, a call at 801-581-8901.

Men's Grief Group

There are a lot of things men suffer alone. That's part of our DNA. We find great personal satisfaction in accomplishing on our own, independently. We famously won't ask for directions, won't admit when we are lost – we prefer to find our own way home. And eventually we do. Most of the time. And that's fine; that's our way.

But, as new and continuing research shows, there's one loss that men could use a little help from their friends to cope with. That's the loss of a spouse or a lover or a parent or a child or a lifelong friend. And it's often help that only other men can provide. Because we understand, many times without saying the words, where you're at, how you got there and even why. Although everyone's grieving process is unique, research shows that, faced with the loss of a spouse or partner, men report feeling “lonely, lost, dismembered, and numb.” They tend to seek activity and coping skills.
Those of us who have been where you now may find yourself (or lost yourself), after losing the love of your life, have gained a little information, have put together a kit of coping tools that belong in your garage right about now.
You are not alone and you don't need to go through this alone. There's another guy in your community in the same place as you and in this case – trust us – two or more heads and hearts are better than one. Men’s 8-week Grief Group being held in Bountiful starting this January 19th each Thursday evening for 8 weeks. If you would like to learn more about this group, give Mark de St. Aubin, LCSW, FT a call at 801-581-8901. 

Mindfulness & Self-Compassion Courses

Our next course will begin Wednesday, January 25th, 4:45 - 6:00 PM at Resilient Solutions, Inc, 1355 N. Main, Ste, 1, Bountiful, Utah.  Christy Cox, LCSW and Becky Andrews, LPC will facilitate this course. 

8-week course, $295 ($38/group).  To register, contact Becky at 801.259.3883 or Christy at 801.243.4959. 

A man travels the world over in search of what he needs and returns home to find it ... George Moore

What are some of our topics?  We will follow A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook as well as some other excellent texts.  Some of the topics will include:

The mind-body connection
Practicing Mindfulness meditation
Mindfulness and stress reduction
How does mindfulness help our interpersonal relationships
How mindfulness can contribute to our healthy path of mindful eating, exercise, rest and connection.

Join us on this journey! 

Resource for our Grief Groups.

Our next upcoming grief groups will begin the week of January 16th.  Contact Becky Andrews, LPC, FT for details at 801.259.3883 or email: becky.lpc@gmail.com.

One of the books we will be using is a daily meditation of working through grief by Martha Whitmore Hickman,  Healing after Loss. 

First affirmation is:  May I honor - and trust - the process of grief ande of healing, knowing that in time, a new day will come. 

Mom's Grief Group

Why a group when one is grieving?  A group can be helpful in gathering relevant information, talking and sharing about your loss, and supporting others who have had a similar loss.  I have watched a beautiful group of moms who have had a child die, lift each other in their deep time of grief.  We have two groups specifically for moms who have had a child die.  Daytime group meets Mondays: 11:30 - 1:00 and the evening group is meeting Wednesdays 6:15 - 7:45 pm.   Please contact Becky Andrews, LPC, FT at 801.259.3883 or email: becky.lpc@gmail.com for the specific schedule.  Next Monday group will begin Monday, January 9th.  (12-week group is $175).

Contact Becky Andrews, LPC, FT, for details.  Becky can be reached at 801.259.3883 or email at:  becky.lpc@gmail.com